Je suis gêné d'être vu en public avec ma copine parce qu'elle est grosse. Est-ce mal de ma part de penser ainsi ?

The not wanting to be seen with your girlfriend in public because she’s overweight sounds kind of shallow, but I can understand losing a sense of physical attraction to a partner if they suddenly became overweight, due to a lack of trying and/or poor dietary choices. I myself have never really been physically attracted to men who are overweight. I’ve always been in to men who are in at least average shape and tall. They don’t have to have perfectly sculpted lean muscles like Brad Pitt, Christian Bale, Taylor Lautner, Robert Pattinson, and the male models on the cover of Sports Illustrated. They need to show that they care enough about their bodies to at least get back to or remain in ok shape and exercise some self-control over their appetite, though. I don’t want to hug, kiss, make out, or sleep with a guy with a body mass so wide that he can’t see his own body below his waist and it feels like I’m about to get suffocated whenever we’re intimate. Not to mention the fact that being overweight for a prolonged period of time leads to a much higher mortality rate/a much shorter life expectancy.
 

That being said, life does happen, too. Our metabolisms start to slow down in our mid-twenties. Most of us don’t have the money to have bodies and diets that look as perfect as celebrities on the covers of magazines. Conditions such as Cushing’s Disease, depression, hypothyroidism, or naturally having an endomorph body structure do make it more difficult to lose weight and keep it off. However, from what I’ve seen, people with these issues can get them treated, eat moderately healthy, work out at least a few times a week, and end up gaining and maintaining at least an average healthy in their build.
 

How long has your girlfriend been overweight? Was she always like this from the time you met her? Is it a new thing? Have you expressed concern over her health for being overweight? There is a way to do it kindly without sounding like a jackass. You could offer to help her go on a diet, or offer to go work out with her. If you’re so ashamed of being seen with her in public for simply being overweight in and of itself, though, I think it’s best to just end it. It’s one thing to feel less physically attracted to a partner because they’ve become overweight, but to be so repulsed that you’re not even willing to offer them compassion and support to get healthier because you don’t want to be seen with them in public anymore? You’re not invested,